This is a question I've considered before and have never come up with a situation where winning an argument would justify the contention.
I often hear statements like "it was a pretty bad fight but at least I won." Did you really win? If it was a fight, can there be a winner?
My wife and I read a few verses of scripture with our sons each evening before bedtime. One evening as we read about a battle between two armies the story concluded stating that one of the sides had one but that they had suffered great casualties. One of our sons, with a thoughtful look on his face, asked: "if so many people died did they win?"
Great question. If people were injured, homes were destroyed, and lives were lost was there really a "winner" or did one side just lose worse than the other?
Recently I came across a quote by Ogden Nash. It reads:
"To keep your marriage brimming,While I don't know if applying this poem to international politics would prevent war in marriage it will certainly prevent casualties. In any argument in a marriage both the husband and the wife lose. One may lose a little bit worse than the other but both lost.
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you're wrong, admit it;
Whenever you're right, shut up."
I know that because we are imperfect humans trying to do our best there will be arguments in marriage. My wife and I argue from time to time. But next time you're tempted to engage in an argument remember Mr. Nash's sage advice: "Whenever you're wrong, admit it; Whenever you're right, shut up."