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Friday, May 8, 2015

Whenever You're Right, Shut Up

Is any argument worth winning?

This is a question I've considered before and have never come up with a situation where winning an argument would justify the contention.

I often hear statements like "it was a pretty bad fight but at least I won." Did you really win? If it was a fight, can there be a winner?

My wife and I read a few verses of scripture with our sons each evening before bedtime. One evening as we read about a battle between two armies the story concluded stating that one of the sides had one but that they had suffered great casualties. One of our sons, with a thoughtful look on his face, asked: "if so many people died did they win?"

Great question. If people were injured, homes were destroyed, and lives were lost was there really a "winner" or did one side just lose worse than the other?

Recently I came across a quote by Ogden Nash. It reads:
"To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you're wrong, admit it;
Whenever you're right, shut up."
While I don't know if applying this poem to international politics would prevent war in marriage it will certainly prevent casualties. In any argument in a marriage both the husband and the wife lose. One may lose a little bit worse than the other but both lost.

I know that because we are imperfect humans trying to do our best there will be arguments in marriage. My wife and I argue from time to time. But next time you're tempted to engage in an argument remember Mr. Nash's sage advice: "Whenever you're wrong, admit it; Whenever you're right, shut up."


  1. Or whenever you are right help your spouse think it was their idea first,,,LOL, j/k.

    But seriously, I think often times in an argument in marriage or heated fellowships as I like to call them, you actually both win. If it was issue that someone was passionate enough about to be upset or it triggered some sort of reaction it is a teachable moment with an opportunity to grow closer.


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