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Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Valentine's Day 2014 (Rescheduled): The Six Things I Planned for Cami (You'll love #4!)

So I surprised Cami with a belated Valentine's Day celebration, or at least a partial celebration, on Monday evening. On Friday, Valentine's Day, we picked up Mexican take-out and ate it in our living room together just talking. After we had just sat and talked (which we don't get to do very often) we watched an old chick-flick classic, Sweet Home Alabama. By the end of the movie we were both exhausted and fell asleep on the couch together. It was a nice, relaxing evening that both of us enjoyed very much.


On Saturday we began discussing when to hold a "real" Valentine's Day. We went through our calendar of the coming week's activities and realized that it was going to be March before we would have a free evening. Cami was a little disappointed but I tried to console her by telling her that there is always next year. :)

Then on Monday evening after we put the kids to bed I put the rest of my plan into action.

  1. I moved the couches in the living room to make as much floor space as possible. I even stacked two couches on top of each other! She thought that I was losing my mind; I explained to her that when the boys and I went to see the Lego Movie a couple of weeks ago (by the way, it is awesome!!) the main character built a double-decker couch and I wanted to give it a try.
  2. I grabbed two little question books that we had started a month or so ago where you each answer questions about the other to see how well you know them. We worked through another thirty or so questions in the books which is always a lot of fun (mostly because I am awesome at it).
  3. I set up the CD player in the living room and found a CD that one of our friends had made us when we were engaged for me to learn how to dance for our wedding dance that had a bunch of songs that you can waltz to on it. 
  4. After the question book game was over I turned on the music immediately flooding the room with wonderful, exciting, and romantic memories. Then I took my wife in my arms and fumbled around the living room attempting to waltz with her. I knew that this would be her favorite part of the evening because she LOVES to dance and me trying to do something that she loves means the world to her.
  5. I closed the curtains in the front room and took advantage of the romantic atmosphere.
  6. We cuddled on the couch (once I had put the couches back on the floor where they are supposed to be).
Despite the delay this year's Valentine's Day celebration was probably one of the most fun we have had in a few years. I love my wife and am grateful for each Valentine's Day where a day is set aside for me to remind her of that.




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Friday, February 14, 2014

Valentine's Day 2014

Well, it's Valentine's Day again. Happy Valentine's Day!

This year I came up with a pretty good plan. There is a lot of strategy and planning that goes into a Tyson Cooper Valentine's Day and this year I decided to treat Cami to a more low-key celebration.

I reflected for the last two or three weeks of January on what she would like (I don't start thinking about Valentine's Day until I feel like I've recovered from Christmas which usually takes a little while). I then spent the first week of February jotting down nearly every idea I came up with. I do this in a Google doc so that she can't "accidentally" stumble upon it in the house.

Next I timed everything out: when to buy the flowers and give them to her, when to pick up her chocolates, what time our dinner plans should commence, etc.

Then, with five days left until V-Day, I began to put my plan into motion. On Wednesday I was going to go to the store to purchase her chocolates and some construction paper that I needed. On Thursday I was going to procure her dozen roses (the color of the roses is important and this year I was going to go with pink). On Friday morning I was going to pick up the donuts that she loves, etc., etc.

Wednesday came and during the afternoon, while I was in my office at work, I happened to look out the window and saw heavenly dandruff descending upon the landscape. "Oh shoot" I said. "The forecast was actually right this time. It is going to snow."


By the time I made it home a little over an hour later the roads were already slick. In the ensuing 15 hours we received over a foot of snow. Living in southwestern Virginia that meant that all travel, unless you're nuts, isn't going to happen.

The end of the story, I haven't done anything for Cami today. My well laid plans have been for naught.

We held a couple council this morning and decided to reschedule Valentine's Day for sometime next week. That's why I haven't given you any actual details of what I was going to do today. Those will be forthcoming after we have celebrated.

Hoping your Valentine is wonderful and treats you like royalty today and everyday,


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Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Now That's A Good Husband

Photo courtesy of Vial Photography
I have read many leadership books. I have taken classes and participated in seminars and conference sessions on leadership. I even have a masters degree in management and leadership. With all of the time, energy, and money that I have invested into learning how to be a great leader I try to practice a little bit of what I have learned.

One of the things that has always stood out to me as a wonderful thing that great leaders do is compliment members of their teams. This builds morale and trust and lets your people know that you care about them as individuals and recognize and appreciate their contribution. Perhaps the most unique yet impactful way that I have read about to do this is to thank those they love most like their parents or spouse for the great job that is being done.

I'm not great at this but I do try. As I was walking across campus earlier this week (I work at a university) I saw the spouse of one of my newer team members. She is doing a wonderful job and I wanted her husband to know that I really appreciated having her as member of my team.

I hollered to him to get his attention and when he turned toward me I said: "You know, your wife is doing a great job, she's really amazing."

Without missing a beat and without hesitation he smiled and responded: "Yes she is!" And with that he hurried away to class.

I felt a large grin appear on my face and a warm feeling of pride grow in my chest for my species (husbands). And I thought, "now that's a good husband."

And he is. I know that you are too.

Now, go tell someone how amazing your wife is.



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Saturday, February 8, 2014

The #1 Biggest Problem in Marriage

I know I've said that children are the #1 problem in marriage and, for the most part, I was joking. The for real number one problem in marriage is humility.

It's not having too much of it, though to a degree that can actually have a negative impact. It's not having enough. A humility deficient marriage is a marriage waiting to fail.

Over the last three years I have had the unfortunate opportunity to watch four friends' marriages fall apart. Cami and I knew them to varying degrees but each one broke my heart. To watch two people, who just a few short years prior had been madly in love with one another, so much so that they made covenants with God and each other to love, cherish, and uphold the other for ever, grow apart and let slip away the relationship that could have made them most happy in life is heart wrenching.

I hate it. I hate seeing it, watching it, hearing about it, and being close to it. It's especially hard when children are involved.

But it does happen and over the last three years it's happened at least four times. Two of our sets of friends are still in various stages of marital collapse. I have learned that each marriage falls apart differently. Some are like a supernova and overwhelm and consume everything around them. Others slip silently by the wayside. But no matter what it's like one thing is common: there is a serious humility deficiency in these failing marriages.


It's not always on both parts, but typically it is. One of the couples that fell apart the deficiency was totally on one of the parties and she admitted it. She was just unwilling to change.

Another one of the couples the husband recognized he was being prideful and tried to change but his wife would not forgive him, she was too proud to try, and so their marriage continued to rot until it collapsed entirely.

In the other two marriages arrogance and pride were equally manifested on both sides. Neither side was willing to both admit that they were part of the problem AND be willing to change. Usually once it gets to that point the trust in the marriage has dissolved to the point that neither party wants to be the one to take the first step for fear of getting their toe stepped on by the other or perhaps even getting their legs knocked from under them.

I feel like I am beginning to ramble. That's not what I want to do. I try not to be a complainer (though Cami would probably tell you that despite my best efforts I am) so I will get to the point.

The point is that a humility deficient marriage is a waiting to fail. It's like a tender box waiting for a spark. Nearly anything will set it off and when it ignites it'll be a big flame. It's at this point (assuming we let our marriage get to this point) that we can make a choice to either fan the flame with pride and arrogance or smother it with humility. It's always our choice.

The point of my point is to beware of pride in your marriage. Don't let it get a foothold. Foster your friendship with humility.

What's the #1 biggest problem in marriage? A serious lack of humility.


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Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Some Essential Tips for Gifting Flowers & Making an Occasion Even More Special

I was approached a few weeks ago by Chris. He asked if I would be willing to share some of his advice about buying flowers. With Valentine's Day being next week I thought it could be helpful and so here is his advice. Enjoy!




Flowers are not only beautiful; they are also a wonderful way to convey your feelings to your loved ones. They possess both personal and commercial value. Moreover, they are available in various colours, smells, and patterns that make each of them unique and special. They are the best way to say happy birthday to your friend or a family member. On this special occasion, any birthday girl or boy would be delighted to find such a gorgeous present. However, there are certain things that you need to keep in mind when choosing flowers for that special day for your loved ones:

  • Make sure you make it on time: A birthday is a very special occasion for everyone that comes once a year. You must plan in such a way that your gift is delivered on time to the recipient because the thrill of receiving presents or surprises on the day of the celebration itself can make anyone feel special and full of joy. Therefore, in order to avoid any mix-ups, it is best to browse around the web in advance and check out how long their delivery process takes and choose the one that you feel best about and will be able to deliver your gift at the right time at the right place in perfect condition.
  • Provide all the essential details when ordering flowers: When ordering flowers online, it is necessary to be prepared with the essential basic information of the recipient. This information must include the recipient’s name, full address, phone number, recipient’s personality type, favourite colours and hobbies, delivery date and last but not least, your desired card message for the recipient. It is also advisable to get all the payment information and the mode of payment.
  • Choose the flowers that suit the personality and preference of the recipient: Find out the favourite colours and smells of the recipient and accordingly select the flowers. The recipient is surely going to appreciate this gift if it matches well with the mood and taste of the recipient. If you are searching birthday flowers in London, various online flower delivery sites can offer you suggestions on how to best celebrate this occasion with flowers. A professional flower site can prepare the finest floral arrangement that can match with your recipient’s personality.
  • Make sure it conveys the right message: When you gift flowers to someone you would definitely like to show your feelings to your loved ones. However, flowers can themselves do a wonderful job of conveying messages that can be understood by the recipient. Furthermore, if you are choosing flowers for decorating or entertaining purpose, it will be best to describe the environment where the arrangement will be placed, to the florist so that they can create an arrangement that complements the style and colours of the recipient’s place.
  • Don’t forget to add a personal note with the flowers: Adding a personal note, which is having a personal statement, can surely put a smile on the face of the recipient. Moreover, this will make them realize that you really care about them. Many studies have shown that receiving flowers can boost a person’s sense of well-being and can give them an overall feeling of happiness.

Thus, fresh flowers and floral arrangements are perhaps the most admired gift on the planet. An unexpected flower delivery can deliver a quick smile on the face of the recipient. So, make a person feel more special by giving him the best gift ever.

Author Bio:
Chris is an experienced blogger and florist in London who sells beautiful and perfect flower arrangement including wonderful birthday flowers in London. He has a keen interest in sharing the meaning of different flowers and to make the moment of his readers enduring all over the years.


Don't miss your chance to get a copy of Uplifting Love: Secrets to Making a Good Marriage Great. This book will not only help you show your husband that you love him it will help you improve your entire marriage!

You think you're happy now, and I'm sure you are, but I challenge you to read Uplifting Love and apply what you learn today to make your marriage awesome! Don't wait another minute, start taking your marriage from good to great today!

Purchase your copy of Uplifting Love: Secrets to Making a Good Marriage Great right now and have it delivered to your inbox immediately! In just a matter of minutes you'll be on your way to having the marriage that your friends and family envy. Don't delay, get your copy today!
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