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Sunday, June 30, 2013

The "Secret" Key to Happiness

Gentleman. Would you like to have a happier marriage?

That's a bit of a rhetorical question, of course you do.

I'll share I secret with you I just discovered (although once I do I guess it won't be a secret anymore...). Anyway, I was reading an article on Medical Daily that was published a couple of weeks ago. The headline is what caught my attention: "Fathers who do chores, spend time with kids get the most out of marriage." The author explained that the results of a recent study found that men who, as the title of the article suggest, help around the house and spend time with their children also find the most satisfaction in their marriages.


Of course they do. Helping around the house shows your wife that you love and appreciate her and that not only do you recognize that your marriage is a partnership but you WANT to be her partner, even if it means doing the dishes. If you aren't doing some of the household chores already just try folding the laundry or doing the dishes or taking out the trash or cleaning the toilet...you get the idea. I promise you will see the effect almost immediately (along with a look of shock, surprise, or maybe even disbelief).

I have heard, though thankfully not too often, some men say/indicate that household chores are "beneath them" or "too menial" so they have their wives do them. What a load of malarkey (see the definition of malarkey here if you're unfamiliar with the word; it's one of my favorites). As I once heard a man in a film say: 

"If there are demeaning things to be done in a man's house who better than the head of the house to do them." 

AMEN!

I'll just quickly touch on spending time with the children though this is important too. Maybe I'll come back to this topic in greater detail in a future post...

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My wife spends a lot more time with our kids than I do. When we share experiences and things that happened during our day almost all of her stories are about the children, which totally makes sense. By spending time with the children myself we then have something to talk about. We share stories, observations, discuss personalities, and laugh. We laugh about what the kids do and say all the time.

Spending time with the children gives me not only the satisfaction of getting to know my sons, show them I love them, and make memories with them it facilitates communication between Cami and me. It gives us more in common.

Now, your assignment is to do a chore around the house (if you already do chores find one you don't normally do). And be happy about it.

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Thursday, June 27, 2013

Stop Trying to Fix It!

A few weeks ago I was visiting Messy Marriage, a great blog run by my friend Beth, about marriage. I was checking out her new post about validating your spouses feelings which was a response to one of her readers' questions. She shared the video below.

I watched it and couldn't stop laughing. I had my wife watch it. The next day I had my team at work watch it. I've shared the video with a bunch of our friends (along with the message that Beth shares, check it out). I love it. Not only is it funny it's true.

Often we can't fix the problem until we've talked through our feelings about it and while stereotypically this is attributed to women more than men I believe it "cuts both ways." We all have feelings that sometimes just need to be discussed before the problem can be resolved.

Enjoy the video!



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Wednesday, June 26, 2013

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Tuesday, June 25, 2013

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Monday, June 24, 2013

The Way You Eat Popcorn Bothers Me

Honesty in marriage is important. It can also hurt. I experienced this in the first months of our marriage.

Cami sat me down on our couch, a hand-me-down we got from some single friends that probably should have been thrown away many years earlier, and lovingly took my hand and while looking me in the eyes stated "the way you eat popcorn really bothers me."

WHAT!?!?!

The way I eat popcorn?

I didn't know how to respond. I just sat there dumbfounded.

Honesty is necessary to marital bliss. I know that now and I knew that then. But I was not expecting that. I love popcorn. I eat it all the time. How could something so precious and dear to me irritate the woman I loved most in all the world? I really didn't understand. I said the only logical thing to say.

"Huh?"


"When you eat popcorn you grab these huge handfuls and then shove them into your mouth. Sometimes popcorn doesn't make it in and it falls around you. You pick it up and all...but...you just look like an animal eating it like that. Why can't you just eat it one or two pieces at a time?"

Until that moment I had never considered how I eat popcorn nor compared myself to others. Suddenly one of those movie flashbacks you see started in my mind as I raced through all of the memories of myself and others eating popcorn. When the flashback came to an end a second later I looked at Cami and said:

"Huh?"

She patiently explained it to me again and tried her hardest to help me see that she still loved me even though the way I ate popcorn really annoyed her. She demonstrated how she felt that I should eat popcorn and elaborated on why. She came at it from every angle imaginable. She was patient and kind.

I still didn't get it.

However, I agreed to TRY to change. Because I loved her and wanted her to be happy...even if I didn't understand why she was unhappy in the first place.

That's what good husbands do, they try to understand, fail, try harder, fail, and finally concede that they will likely never understand and comply. And that's exactly what I've been doing for the last six and a half years. Two good things came out of this: first, Cami is happier; second, we have an inside joke. Sometimes, especially if we're around other people, I will start eating popcorn like a neanderthal. It always makes Cami laugh.

Two lessons are to be learned from this story:
  1. Honesty. It's important in marriage. It's essential. Even when it comes to the little things.
  2. When you're honest it can sometimes come as a surprise. Be kind, patient, and loving and try to help your spouse understand where you're coming from and what you are requesting. Cami did a great job of this.
Popcorn. She should have buttered me up first. (bad joke, but I had to make a crack about it)

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Friday, June 21, 2013

5 Things My Wife Does to Drive Me Crazy

We like to have fun. We like to laugh. We enjoy giggling (okay, Cami more than me but still...). Usually we like to do this together. But sometimes...

I purposefully do things to bother Cami because I think her reaction is funny. I don't do malicious things that would hurt her (emotionally or physically), I am careful to read her mood before bothering her (I learned this the hard way), and I (almost always) know where the line is to keep from crossing it.


Here are just a few examples:
  • In the past I have poured cups of cold water on her while she is in the shower
  • When we were first married I held the camera over the shower curtain and tried to take pictures of her (I did get one picture that while it didn't really show anything inappropriate the face she was making is priceless; I would share it but it has been forbidden)
  • I throw decorative pillows at her almost every night (see my last post)
  • Frequently I will hide and try to scare her
  • I get one or more of the boys to agree with me and gang up on her when we are playfully arguing
  • I poke her. She says that she hates being poked, but I know better.
  • Early in our marriage I would hang her "unmentionables" around our apartment as decorations
  • Sometimes when she leans in to kiss me I lick her. That always makes me smile. :)
I want to make sure that you realize that all of this is done in love and is one of the many ways I make sure that Cami knows I am thinking about her and love her. :)

Also, it is not a one-way street.

Cami has done and/or continues to do the following five things to me (and one bonus one because I like you):
  1. She cuts the block of cheese weird (I like a nice straight cut on the block)
  2. I keep a bottle of water in the fridge because I like to drink cold water. She will take a drink and then leave it on the counter to warm up.
  3. She purposely puts the sheet and the comforter at odds with one another (so that the corners don't even come close to matching up)
  4. She'll leave crumbs on the counter (she only does this purposefully sometimes, the rest of the time she's doing it out of habit)
  5. Cami will scrunch up the bathmat while I'm taking a shower so I step out onto the cold tile or onto a balled up bathmat
  6. And some days she'll call or text me like every 10-15 minutes while I'm at work for an hour or so just to bug me. It works. But I know that she loves me and I would miss it terribly if she ever stopped.
Okay, now that this list is out in the open I realize that it makes me sound a little OCD. Um, I'm not. Well, at least not too much.

The point of all of this teasing? To show each other that we are thinking of the other. Yeah it might be a little weird but it's one of the ways we keep our marriage fun and strong.

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Wednesday, June 19, 2013

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Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Show Your Love...Throw a Pillow


If you entered my bedroom and saw my bed you would know that a woman sleeps there, and, if you didn't know I slept there as well, you would probably not be able to otherwise ascertain that a man does.

I suspect that this is true in most married bedrooms. And, we don't care, husbands that is.

One of the decorative choices that my wife has made is to add some additional pillows to our bed. We don't sleep on them so every night we remove them from the bed and every morning we put them back on. I'm not sure what purpose they serve, especially since no one else sees our bedroom, but they make Cami happy and that's what I'm all about.

I am pretty creative, at least I think so. And there's at least one thing I am EXCELLENT at: teasing other people. And I often remind Cami that those I love most I tease most.

I am proud to declare that the decorative pillows now have a purpose. They are so that I can show Cami how much I love her. :)

How do I do that? Yep, you guessed it. I throw the pillows at her.

I try to wait until she least suspects it, then, WHAM. Pillow in the face!

She loves it (usually). And most importantly she knows that I love her.

So, if you love her...throw a pillow. :)

What do you do to show your spouse you love them? I would love to hear about it. Share it with me in the comments.

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Monday, June 17, 2013

3 Steps to Creating Your Own "Festivus"


I love holidays. I enjoy spending time with my family, eating, getting time off from work, reminiscing, and remembering why we celebrate. Holidays are great.

However, Christmas is still sometime away. So are Halloween, Thanksgiving, and New Year's. We do have the Fourth of July coming up but then after that there is a dearth of holidays until the end of October.

Never fear. I have an answer.

Festivus. Well, maybe not Festivus exactly but the idea of it. Back in the 1990's I would occasionally watch the television show Seinfeld. In one episode George (the short, bald guy) has to explain, and then endure, a holiday he claims his father invented. It is called Festivus. Here's a YouTube clip that explains.



While Festivus itself doesn't really solve the problem of this summer time lack of holidays the idea of creating a holiday unique to your marriage and your family is a great one. Think how fun it would be to create a brand new holiday for your family. You can designate whatever day you would like, you can even celebrate it more than once each year if you so desire!

The important thing is to create it with your spouse and family. It should be a group effort. Here are the steps:
  1. Pick the day. It really doesn't matter when unless you are tying your holiday to a special event in the family's past. Just find a day that works and fits your calendar.
  2. Determine how it is to be celebrated. Will there be a family meal? Maybe breakfast (I can't think of another holiday where the traditional meal is breakfast). Are you going to have a tree? What about exchanging gifts? Are friends invited? Are there special songs that will be sung? Have fun with this. You can make the holiday as elaborate or simple as your family decides. Just have fun!
  3. Name the holiday. Pick something creative and unique. Remember, it's your holiday. You can name it whatever you want. For my family we might name it something like "Super Duper Cooper Day" (yes, I realize that this is REALLY corny but hey, it's my holiday). Be creative.
WHAM! You now have a new holiday to celebrate as a family.

Here's an example to help get you started.

Cami and I have a friend that she has known since elementary school. This friend of ours, we call her Kip, has an awesome family and the best parents. At some point when Kip and her siblings were still young her mom decided she was tired of always telling them no. I guess she discussed this with her husband and a new family holiday was established. We don't know if they actually gave it a name but on one day a year their mom would stock the freezer with ice cream. TONS OF ICE CREAM. For that one day the kids could all the ice cream they wanted as long as they obeyed one rule. You had to ask mom for permission.

Why did they have to ask mom for permission? So that she could say YES.

That's all she wanted. She just wanted to say yes all day long instead of no. The kids would invite their friends over and everyone had a great day. Cami still talks about it fondly (she received an invitation to the "celebration" several times over the years) and would love to do something like it when our sons are older. I think it's a great idea. Awesome family holiday!

Just yesterday Cami and I were talking about creating our own family holiday and holding it sometime in July. I don't know what it will end up being but I'm looking forward to it. The other wonderful thing about creating your own holiday and celebrating it is the added closeness it brings to the family. The memories that are created tie family members closer together and strengthen the bonds of friendship.

What is your Festivus going to be? Does your family have a "Festivus" that it celebrates? I would love to hear about it. Please share it with me in the comments. :)

Also, I was able to dig up two more stories of family holidays that are pretty neat. I'll be sharing those with my newsletter subscribers later this week. If you haven't signed up for my free monthly newsletter yet you should totally do it now.

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Not Your Traditional Father's Day Tribute

Today is the day that is set aside in the United States to celebrate and honor fathers.

Happy Father's Day dad!

While it would be traditional to do a tribute to my father I'm going to break tradition.


Instead...

Happy Father's Day Cami! Happy Father's Day Mom!

That's right. Without mothers there wouldn't be father's. Seems pretty simple but it's the reason I'm breaking with tradition (besides it would be weird and oddly self-serving if I wrote a tribute to myself).

So, to not take you away from celebrating Father's Day with the men in your lives I'll make this short.

I love being a father. My boys are fantastic, cute, funny, energetic, and bring me a lot of joy and pride because I am their dad. I love playing with them, "beating them up" (wrestling), teaching them, and working with them in the yard and in the home. They are good boys and I am grateful to be their dad.

However, without their mom, I don't know how much I would like them.

Undoubtedly I would love my sons but who they are has been and continues to be influenced so much by their mom and  her good example and teaching that without her I don't know how much I would like them. I am certain they would be hoodlums and miscreants without her influence. I'm grateful to be a father and that's because of their mother.


I am also grateful for my father. He's a wonderful man whom I love, respect, and consider my friend. He's one of my favorite people to talk to, I love visiting historical sites with him, and appreciate his advice and insight. But I don't think I would have the the friendship with him that I do if it weren't for my mother. She taught me to respect others and to be kind and considerate. Her influence is largely responsible for me turning out like I have which makes it possible to have the friendship with my dad (because he likes me, at least, I'm under the impression that he does). Thanks Mom!

To all the fathers out there: Happy Father's Day! (and to all the mothers: Happy Father's Day as well!)

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

"Linkin With My Ladies" Thursday Hop (I know, I know: I'm a guy)

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Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Early Life Crisis

So I'm not old enough to have a mid-life crisis but twice in the last year I have been sorely tempted to just resign my position at the university where I work and move my family to one of three locations: Orlando, Florida; San Antonio, Texas; or, San Diego, California.


What do these three cities have in common that would make me consider moving my family there? I'll give you three guesses.

Nope, it's not the sunny, warm weather.

Wrong again, San Antonio doesn't have a Disney park anywhere near it.

Sorry, big city life isn't appealing to Cami and I either.

The answer: Sea World. More specifically: orcas.

I LOVE orcas (more commonly knows as killer whales). They have been my favorite animal since the sixth grade when I wrote a story about a flying orca that saved the world.

A couple of weeks ago I was in Orlando, Florida for a conference. During the conference there was a hosted dinner for conference attendees at Sea World (awesome, right?!). Along with that they arranged for a  special showing of the Shamu show "One Ocean" exclusively for our group. Talk about great dinner time entertainment!


Well, during the show I was absolutely captivated by these magnificent animals. As the show moved along I felt my heart rate quicken, my adrenaline begin flowing, and I realized I was completely caught up in the magic. At the end of the show I pulled out my smartphone, opened my email, and began composing a letter of resignation that I intended to send to my boss. My intention: quit my job, sell our house, and move my family to SeaWorld (it didn't matter which one).

Thankfully, a few words into the email common sense prevailed. I closed my email deleting the draft in the process and instead called Cami to tell her how great the show was.

Now, here's how this story ties into a marriage related topic. Cami was supportive of me quitting my job and moving us to SeaWorld so that I could pursue a childhood dream. What a woman! We have three small boys, a baby due in two months, a mortgage, financial and social obligations, and the list goes on. Yet she was supportive!

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She didn't ask (but was probably thinking) "how are we going to sell the house?" or "do you even have the qualifications to be an orca trainer?" (by the way, I just need to practice my swimming a little bit). Nope, she didn't ask those quesitons. She was just supportive. 100% supportive. In fact, I remember her saying, and this is a direct quote, "If that's your dream then we should do it."

Wow. I love my wife so much.

While I would love to be an orca trainer I realize that moving my family would be selfish of me and is unnecessary for me to provide for my family. I have a good job that I enjoy and that enables me to support my family financially. Therefore, for the present, we're staying put.

The point is, however, that we should support one another in marriage. Cami is a perfect example of that and I love her so very much for it.

That gives me an idea for another post... :)

Next time you're in Orlando, San Antonio, or San Diego I admonish you to visit SeaWorld. Make sure you see the orcas. You won't be disappointed (and you'll be thinking about me!).

I would love to hear about a time that you supported your spouse or they were supportive of you. Share it with me in the comments. By the way, if you haven't signed up for my newsletter yet you totally should.

Friday, June 7, 2013

Thank You Ashton!

As many of you have noticed Uplifting Love received a "face lift" a couple of weeks ago. I am grateful for talented people who have helped me learn more about blogging. I am especially grateful to Ashton @ www.somethingswanky.com for her help with the redesign. It is her idea and she deserves all of the credit.

Thank you Ashton!

Please drop by and visit her site (www.somethingswanky.com). It's a great dessert site with lots of great recipes and ideas. You'll love it!

For those of you that are new to Uplifting Love here's a screenshot of what the site used to look like.


I liked it (it was a big improvement on the first design with clouds and things in the background; I really didn't know what I was doing then) but this is MUCH better.

Thanks again Ashton for your help. It looks great!

(One last time I encourage you to check out Ashton's blog, www.somethingswanky.com. You'll be glad you did)

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Linkin with my ladies blog hop #18

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This weeks featured blog also happens to be the reason why I have been a little "Missing in action" the last couple of weeks.

Sugar me pretty is actually my newest blog!

Very slow to start, still needs a lot of work, but with the help of my little sister who will be a contributor, it exists and I couldn't be more excited! Sugar me pretty is a "Lifestyle" blog where I share with you my pretty finds, inspirational thoughts, and so much more! I will say that I am not too proud to beg for your support on this. That being said, I AM BEGGING YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT ON THIS! :) I invite you all to stop by my newest blog and maybe share a follow? Maybe? Thanks to everyone! Sugar Me Pretty
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