I read a reader comment on ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com last week. He said "love is choosing."
Love is choosing? I don't think so. According to popular wisdom you don't have a say who you love, at least romantically. We hear regularly "love at first sight", "we fell in love with each other", "we fell out of love", "they just don't love each other anymore", and "lucky in love". These phrases obviously teach us that we don't have any control over love.
Apparently, love comes and goes as it pleases. Those of us who are blessed to have it in our lives, directed at a single person, for an extended period of time are just extra fortunate. Still, we can't control love. You can't bottle it after all.
So, if you love someone today count yourself lucky. Tomorrow you might not love them anymore. But then again, you might. Don't worry about it though. You don't have any control over it anyway.
I mean, if love were choosing then when people "fall out of love" it wouldn't be something that happened to them, it would be something of their own doing, perhaps caused by some form of neglect? That's ridiculous.
If love were choosing then it would be my choice to experience "love at first sight." In other words, I was just walking down the street, saw a woman, and decided that she's the one I want and love. Absurd.
If love were choosing then no one could be "lucky in love" because luck is totally outside of my control. When I play poker with my friends (we don't actually put any money in, we just play with the poker chips and pretend) the person with the best hand didn't work at it or really have any control over which cards he received. How can I choose to be lucky in love? Laughable.
This reader's comment, "love is choosing", is contrary to popular wisdom, therefore, I conclude that it must be wrong.
Does all of this sound ridiculous to anyone else? Or is it just me?