- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
If you have questions about any (or all) of them check out his website or read his book. It's very insightful stuff.
The other day Cami and I were talking about this and discussing what we think the other's primary "love language" is. We agreed that mine was physical touch. I love massages, back scratches, the kids and Cami "playing" with my hair, hugs, holding hands, etc.
As we debated what Cami's primary love language was we kept bouncing between them. She loves gifts, especially when it's chocolate. She really enjoys spending time with others, particularly when it involves eating out or snacks. Doing kind things for her, like making dinner or treating her to a special dessert, just make her day. Suddenly we noticed a pattern.
Everything that she really enjoys and appreciates has something in common.
Then we realized it: Cami's love language wasn't one of Dr. Chapman's five.
We had discovered a new love language! It is the love language of FOOD!
That's right. The way to Cami's heart is through her stomach. Now, typically that is true of most men, but apparently it is true of my wife as well. As we reflected further we came to the additional realization that while food was good, chocolate was better.
I am thankful for this further understanding I now have of my wife and how to make her happy and show her that I love her. I feed her chocolate. I can't believe it took me so long to realize it.
However, I now have a dilemma. Do I tell Dr. Chapman that he's missing a language? :)