Do you exercise together? Maybe go running?
What about going to the movies or reading? Perhaps cooking together, talking, working in the yard?
My guess is, that if you're like most of us, you spend at least some of your free time (if not A LOT of your free time) watching television.
Television, as is true with anything, in excess can be harmful. However, watching a TV show together can actually be a good thing for your marriage. There are two reasons for this: first, you are spending time together doing something that is relaxing and you both enjoy; second, it creates shared memories, inside jokes, and adds additional context to your marriage.
What do I mean by "additional context"? Let me explain. Have you ever referred to a date that you and your spouse went on during a later conversation, something that only the two of you would know about? It's not really an inside joke because it doesn't have to be funny but something like "remember how red that tablecloth was at Bruno's Pizza? That was the color of his shirt." This is shared context.
The more you do together, including watching television, the more shared context you create in your marriage.
Cami and I enjoy watching television. However, lest you think we are addicted to TV, we also enjoy reading books (see post about reading together). In our seven years together we have probably watched too much TV but what's done is done. :)
Here is a list of some of our favorite TV shows, both ones that we are currently watching and ones that we've watched in the past (I think for most of them it will be pretty obvious which ones I chose and which ones Cami chose).
- Boy Meets World
- Home Improvement
- Star Trek: TNG
- White Collar
- The Glades
- Everybody Loves Raymond
- Hart of Dixie
- The Bachelorette and The Bachelor (I don't know which ones, Cami could tell you)
- Drop Dead Diva