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Sunday, June 30, 2013

The "Secret" Key to Happiness

Gentleman. Would you like to have a happier marriage?

That's a bit of a rhetorical question, of course you do.

I'll share I secret with you I just discovered (although once I do I guess it won't be a secret anymore...). Anyway, I was reading an article on Medical Daily that was published a couple of weeks ago. The headline is what caught my attention: "Fathers who do chores, spend time with kids get the most out of marriage." The author explained that the results of a recent study found that men who, as the title of the article suggest, help around the house and spend time with their children also find the most satisfaction in their marriages.

Of course they do. Helping around the house shows your wife that you love and appreciate her and that not only do you recognize that your marriage is a partnership but you WANT to be her partner, even if it means doing the dishes. If you aren't doing some of the household chores already just try folding the laundry or doing the dishes or taking out the trash or cleaning the get the idea. I promise you will see the effect almost immediately (along with a look of shock, surprise, or maybe even disbelief).

I have heard, though thankfully not too often, some men say/indicate that household chores are "beneath them" or "too menial" so they have their wives do them. What a load of malarkey (see the definition of malarkey here if you're unfamiliar with the word; it's one of my favorites). As I once heard a man in a film say: 

"If there are demeaning things to be done in a man's house who better than the head of the house to do them." 


I'll just quickly touch on spending time with the children though this is important too. Maybe I'll come back to this topic in greater detail in a future post...

Photos courtesy of Vial Photography
My wife spends a lot more time with our kids than I do. When we share experiences and things that happened during our day almost all of her stories are about the children, which totally makes sense. By spending time with the children myself we then have something to talk about. We share stories, observations, discuss personalities, and laugh. We laugh about what the kids do and say all the time.

Spending time with the children gives me not only the satisfaction of getting to know my sons, show them I love them, and make memories with them it facilitates communication between Cami and me. It gives us more in common.

Now, your assignment is to do a chore around the house (if you already do chores find one you don't normally do). And be happy about it.

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  1. I'm fortunate in that MY Dad did half of the household chores and I married a man that does too. I love it when my husband chooses to spend his precious time with the kids. And they love it too. Off to watch that video (the nail one) from your previous post.

    Thanks for linking up to my weekly BlogLovin Hop ( I’m a follower of yours.

    Besos, Sarah
    Blogger at Journeys of The Zoo

  2. Stopping by to follow you thru the July Social Connection Hop!

  3. This was a beautiful post. I am not married (or even anywhere close) but my parents have been happily married for 34 years and I think the fact that they really ARE partners is what makes it work. And to be completely honest, my mom was always around and doing what she did best around the house and with us kids, but seeing my dad do those things just made it special. We knew they were in it together, and that was a beautiful thing.

  4. Great post! I am lucky enough to have a great hubs who helps around the house and is a very involved Dad. It really does make life easier with an actual partner! =)

    Thank you for spreading JOY and sharing at the Oh What a HAPPY Day party.

    Holly at Not Done Growing

  5. I too have a husband who helps out.. When he's in the country that is..
    Great post!

  6. What an awesome post and oh so true! I do wish mine helped out more, but then again I am the SAHM, now. Just wanted to stop by and say thanks so much for stopping by This Momma's Meandering Mondays! Have a great weekend!


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