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Friday, April 19, 2013

You should have helped her...

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I normally get up before my family each morning so that I can dedicate some time to writing and reading what others have written on their websites the previous day. Normally my oldest son wakes up first (he's five) and comes and joins me in the living room and we chat for a few minutes. I really enjoy spending this time one-on-one with him and hope that he enjoys it too. Well, earlier this week he comes out and sits down on the couch next to me. The previous evening Cami had been vacuuming the living room but, for whatever reason, hadn't finished so the vacuum was still out. He asked me if mom had finished vacuuming and responded that she hadn't and he looked me in the eyes and scolded "Dad, you should have helped her." I chuckled and agreed that I should have and promised him that I would do better next time. That seemed to satisfy him and he went to the kitchen to get a drink of water.

As I've thought about his comment I've been impressed and thankful for his understanding of how marriage is supposed to work. He already understands at five years old that marriage is a partnership. While we each have responsibilities to fulfill we need to help each other to fulfill those responsibilities. This vacuuming situation is just one example. In my marriage my wife and I have decided that I would leave the home each day and earn the money that we need to support our family and she would stay at home and nurture and care for our children and home. However, there have been times in our marriage where I haven't been able to make enough money to cover all of our expenses. My sweetheart was willing to do some babysitting and help earn a little bit extra money to get our family through those times. At other times when Cami hasn't been feeling well or it's been an especially hard day I help her by taking out the trash, doing the dishes, vacuuming, making dinnner, etc. Just like oxen pulling a wagon in the 19th century we are a team yoked to one another and need to pull together (no I'm not comparing my wife to an ox, she is the most beautiful woman I have ever laid eyes on!).

Marriage is teamwork and the beauty of it is that when the going gets tough we have covenanted to one another and to God to "pull together" until we are through the difficult time. I am grateful to be married to a wonderful woman and that we are a great team. I can't imagine going through life without her. Now, think oxen and go "pull" with your wife (or husband, as the case may be).

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18 comments:

  1. What a precious son! Hopefully he doesn't forget his own words when mommy needs his help and he isn't feeling it. ;)

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  2. Beautiful and as a pastor's wife, I can see how important it is to pull together and to even carry the load when he is tired. I loved this post.

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    1. I'm glad you enjoyed this Simone. Thanks for stopping by!

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  3. Tyson ~ How thoughtful your son is....adorable. marriage is teamwork, but in our crazy lives somehow things get all messed up. This post is a great reminder to us all.

    Thank you for joining the Show Off Your Blog Party. I'm one of the Co-Host. :)

    Jules
    A Dose of Jules

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  4. Hi Tyson,

    Another awesome post. Thanks a million for sharing this @ The Show Off Blog Post. Marriage is definitely teamwork and it is what holds it together. kudos to your son! You taught him well!

    Jessica
    The Wondering Brain

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  5. Love this, Tyson, "Marriage is teamwork and the beauty of it is that when the going gets tough we have covenanted to one another and to God to "pull together" until we are through the difficult time." It reminds me of a James Dobson quote I tweeted out this weekend: “Marriage succeeds only as lifetime commitment with no escape clauses." :)

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    1. I'm glad you enjoyed it Fawn. And that quote by Dobson is a good one too.

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  6. Wow, love this post! It is so refreshing to find people who still believe in marriage! As my husband and I approach our first anniversary this weekend, I will be sharing your blog with him. Thank you for stopping by our blog hop party over the weekend.

    Tiffany
    gladiator-in-heels.blogspot.com

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    1. Congratulations on your first anniversary!!! That's fantastic. I hope your husband enjoys my blog too Tiffany. If you or he have any suggestions for it let me know. Thanks for stopping by! (and enjoy your anniversary)

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  7. Hey there! I'm stopping' by from the blog hop and wanted to let you know I liked your Facebook page! Hope you'll get a chance to visit me! You can find me here:

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    1. Thanks "Cropped"! I visited your Facebook page and returned the favor. :)

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  8. Hey there, stopping by from the Blog Hop! Just wanted to let you know I am now following you via GFC! I hope you'll get the chance to visit me :o) You can find me here:

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  9. I see three things from your son's words ... first, he is incredibly wise. Second, he apparently has been watching a healthy marriage dynamic and is learning from it. Third, he is comfortable with you, his father, enough to share a sweet challenge. I'm so glad you didn't push back or try to justify your actions. You have a great heart for your wife and family, Tyson, and I'm so glad you speak about it here and share it with Wedded Wed each week, my friend!

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    1. Beth, I appreciate the kinds words. We work hard at having a good family and it's moments like this one with my son that help us see the fruit of our labors. Recently my boys have also started opening the door for their mom. They even get in fights with each other if one of them goes through the door to the house before her. It's adorable (though we are trying to stop the fighting).

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  10. A thoughtful son you have. His mom and dad must have trained him well. :) Thank you for sharing this precious story and linking up with me over at Home Educator Mom.

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    1. Thank you Betty. He is quite thoughtful. He has also picked up on chivalry and makes sure that his momma's door is opened for her (it's really cute when he forgets because he will get upset with himself).

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