I ended last time stating that the love I feel for my wife is different than the love I have for chocolate, sunsets, and reading. It is also different than the love I feel for my children. While I love our sons with all my heart it is a simple love; they were born and I love them. The love for a child is a gift from God to parents. My sons did not earn my love and they do not need to do anything to retain it. They do not even need to reciprocate it (though that would be sad indeed). The love I feel for my wife, however, I believe to be a more mature love. It began when I chose to open my heart to it. It grew as I chose to allow it. It blossomed as I chose to nurture it. It flourishes as I embrace it and the tighter the embrace the faster and stronger it grows. The point is that I chose and continue to choose to love my wife. I am not obligated to do so and while my wife is easy to love it is not always easy to protect our love. It is something that we work on each day and pray for each night. It is a more mature form of love. It is something that as children we were not capable of because we did not have the ability to comprehend what the love between husband and wife entailed; we were not yet mature enough. Simply put, it is the choice to love that gives our love for our spouse the ability to be the greatest love we feel. If, like Ms. Shaw, we are unsure who we love more, our spouse or the children, it is because we have not yet made the choice to love our spouse more than our children.
Now, don't get me wrong. Loving a child is a wonderful thing that can teach us many things. I am in no way demeaning that. What I am saying is simply that the love between husband and wife has an infinite ability to grow if the choice is made to pursue it.
The fundamental difference between the love for a child and the love for a spouse is found in the choice that we make to love our spouses. Making the choice to open our hearts to love is what is uplifting about the love between a husband and wife, and because love is a gift from God doing so brings us closer to Him. In response to the question Kristin Shaw raised, I declare that for me the love I have for my wife is far greater than the love I have for my children because I choose to love her. And she feels the same way.
I've shared what I think. I would love to hear what you think. Please tell me. :)