So I went to take a shower. My wife had really been looking forward to yesterday as well because she anticipated that I would help get the children ready for church (I'm not usually home when they are getting ready), and I had planned to. The problem was a lack of communication between the two of us. She expected me to help get the children dressed BEFORE I took a shower. I had planned to help AFTER my shower. The result: my wonderful wife got the children ready by herself WHILE I was in the shower. There was some tension between us when my shower finished. We successfully discussed what happened, apologized, and made up after our church services but once again the children and a failure to communicate caused problems. In the future we will both do a better job helping one another understand our expectations.
I love my sweetheart and am grateful for all that she does. Our family would simply not function without her. Next time I have a Sunday "off" I plan to get the children ready BEFORE I take a shower. :)
MORAL OF THE STORY: help each other understand your expectations. It will prevent a lot of conflict.
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