The description that Ms. Brown provided about love, taken from Good Will Hunting, was:
And if I asked you about love, you'll probably quote me a sonnet. But you've never looked at a woman and been totally vulnerable. Known someone could level you with her eyes... You don't know about real loss, because that only occurs when you love something more than you love yourself. I doubt you've ever dared to love anybody that much.
I think that pretty much sums it up. Real and lasting happiness in marriage only comes when we choose to love our spouse more than ourselves and they do the same. It isn't one sided, both have to love the other more than themselves. Yes, you are vulnerable if you care more about your spouse than yourself but the trust required for this to happen is the foundation on which uplifting love is built. Then by applying the practices discussed on this site we can acheive Uplifting Love.
What do you think? Am I right? What has your experience been?