In the seven years that my wife and I have been married there has not been a single time that I have wondered if we should continue our marriage.
We started out making a covenant with each other to love, care for, and support one another. Have there been times where I could have wondered, maybe, but I won't allow myself.
Instead of wasting energy wondering if "we're compatible" anymore or worrying that "we're different people now than when we got married" I invest my time and energy into making sure that we are still in love, have shared interests, and that we grow together not apart.
I just do not understand the flawed thinking about marriage that is so prevalent in today's society.
You get married to stay married not so that you can file your taxes together.
The thing that redeemed this experience for me was the comments from the readers. Many of them were as surprised as I was and counseled her to exercise a little maturity.
That's something we should all do, exercise a little more maturity in our relationships.
Even if the two of you decide it doesn't need to change you'll have grown just a little bit closer together. (okay, this ended up being longer than I planned)
Does seeing things like this question in the Boston Globe bother you? What suggestions do you have for growing together or avoiding growing apart?