Monday, October 27, 2014

3 Reasons I Am The Most Attractive Man in the World

I boldly declare that I am the most attractive man in the world.

It takes a pretty self-confident man to make this kind of a declaration and I just happen to be such a man.

At this point you may be skeptical of my claim. To show you that I'm right here's a picture of me.


I know, right? You're thinking "how does he handle being so attractive?" It's been both a blessing and a curse my entire life but you learn to deal with it.

Let me defend my position. First, I am married to the most beautiful and amazing person that has ever walked the earth. Therefore, while I recognize that I am not her equal, I must be near her perfection and level of physical attractiveness, otherwise fate would never have allowed our union to happen. Here's her picture so you know that I'm right.


Second, Cami (my beautiful and amazing wife) tells me several times a day that there is no one more attractive than me. She is not only beautiful and amazing, she is a woman of integrity so I know that she can't be lying. She would feel too guilty all of the time if she were lying, therefore, it must be true.

Third, we have the cutest kids ever! With four children, statistically speaking, if I were not the most attractive man in the world then at least two of our kids would be "less than the cutest" because half of their genes come from me. However, just look at them! Cami and I are obviously the most attractive people in the world.


Would anyone like to argue with me? I didn't think so.



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Thursday, October 9, 2014

We Will Be Accountable to God as Parents

"HUSBAND AND WIFE have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. 'Children are an heritage of the Lord' (Psalm 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations."

Children truly are an heritage of the Lord. I would hope and expect that everyone that has a child would agree.

Children are amazing. Raising children is an amazing experience from which we are taught a multitude of lessons.

I thought before I married Cami that I was pretty selfless. I was wrong and marriage helped me learn to be more selfless.

Then I figured that I had pretty much mastered the basics of selflessness, I knew I wasn't perfect but pretty good and getting better. Then we had our first child. I was wrong.

Then our next child, then the next, and then the next. After each child I would think "I'm getting this selfless thing and getting pretty good at it." Then the next child is born and I realize I have more to learn. Since we are expecting our fifth child in May 2015 I expect to learn even more about selflessness.

Learning to be less selfish is just one of many blessings that parents receive when they have children. I suppose I could dedicate a series just to the blessings of parenthood (and maybe I will!). Today I'm not going to.

With all of the blessings that come from parenthood also come responsibilities. "Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness..." How do we do that?

First, we should set the example for our children. We should be kind to others, especially our spouse. We should be generous, especially with our spouse. We need to set an example of good citizenship, of being a good neighbor, loving and serving those around us.

Our children, especially when they are young, are influenced more by what they observe from their parents than anything else. This also means that we need to be active in their lives. If we aren't around they won't be able to observe.

This is one of the reasons that Cami and I are so grateful that we have been blessed that she can be a stay at home mom (I prefer the term domestic engineer). The children get to spend so much time with her seeing her amazing example and learning from her.


I also try to spend as much time with them as I can so that they can see me too. I take them to work every now and then with me, they participate in service projects working along side me, and we do stay up nights occasionally where we spend one-on-one time together.

As I've thought about this post the thought occurred to me that Cami and I and our children have been richly blessed with a pretty ideal situation. I make enough money that Cami can stay home with the kids, we're happily married, and the children have both of us to learn from.

But not everyone currently enjoys the same blessings we do. My sister and a few of our friends are single parents. The fathers are not an active part of their children's lives. For single parents I cannot imagine the difficulty and struggles that they face.

They have to be both bread-winner, mom, dad, friend, mentor, enforcer, compassionate, disciplined, etc. all of the time. I'm exhausted just trying to set a good example of how a husband, father, and man should be. I cannot even imagine what it would be like to have to show the children how to be a good mother, wife, woman, house keeper, cook, and all of the other things my wife does.


My heart goes out to single parents everywhere as do my prayers. In situations where both parents are not able to be present in the home single parents should rely on family members and close friends and neighbors to support them in their efforts to rear their children in love and righteousness.

Spending time with the children, setting a good example for them, playing with them and sheltering them from the unwholesome that exists in the world is essential for us as parents to fulfill our God-given charge to rear our children in love and righteousness.

This responsibility is so sacred that we "will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations."

We can do it. We have to do it. Leave me a comment and let me know how YOU do it.



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Monday, October 6, 2014

13 Ways to Fall Out of Love

Falling in love is easy.

I think that this is a nearly universally accepted truth (at least in Hollywood). But no one ever talks about the process of falling out of love. Is it easy? What do I need to do? How long does it take?

The answers are: kind of; follow the steps below; it varies.

Falling out of love takes some unconscious effort. To help you here are 13 ways to fall out of love. CAUTION: by reading this list you risk bringing the effort into your consciousness and thereby undoing what your unconscious has been working on. Reader beware.
  1. Stop talking to each other. Don't talk about what happened during your day or who told you what. If you have a thought or a dream don't share it with your spouse. Keep your thoughts to yourself.
  2. Spend less time together. If you have a choice between playing a game with your husband and looking at your Facebook do the latter. On date night go out with your friends instead. Try to wake up before your wife does and go to bed after she's asleep.
  3. Say "I love you" less and less often. When you think it, don't say it. After a while you will think it less often and the temptation to say "I love you" will diminish. If you mess up and it accidentally slips out forgive yourself and remember that you can do better next time.
  4. Forget special dates. Take special dates like anniversaries, birthdays, and holidays such as Valentine's Day off of your work calendar and the calendar on your phone. When you receive a Facebook notification that it's your wife's birthday, delete it.
  5. Expect less. Stop anticipating those kind things that your husband often does like bringing you flowers. Dinner isn't going to be ready when you get home so don't even think about. You aren't going to really enjoy being with him so don't be disappointed when you don't.
  6. Stop saying thank you. When he takes out the trash don't thank him. When she makes the bed make a point to pretend like it didn't happen. When he asks if you liked that he helped with the laundry say you don't really care. This will help you be less grateful for your spouse.
  7. Dial back your physical intimacy. While this does include less sex hopefully you had figured that one out already. More specifically touch the small of her back less often, no more back rubs, don't put your head on his shoulder, and absolutely avoid holding hands.
  8. Tone down your displays of affection. If you feel obligated to get flowers don't get roses, instead pick out something cheap like daisies or maybe you can pick some dandelions. Pick plutonic, boring greeting cards for special dates (if you forget and accidentally remember one). Don't open the door for her and instead go through first yourself. You get the idea. Don't be rude but don't be so affectionate.
  9. Stop sleeping in the same room. Sleep in the guest room or on the couch. This will keep you from unintentionally being intimate and also helps you avoid the temptation to have a conversation late at night when you're tired and more vulnerable.
  10. Don't eat meals together. Come home from work late or grab a bite to eat on the way home. Then go straight to the den or living room to watch the game. For those who typically make dinner just don't make it. That way there's nothing to eat together. Or finish eating before your spouse gets home. For an extra touch you could even clean up the food before they arrive.
  11. Question your feelings for your spouse. Do you really still love her? Is he as attractive as I once thought? Are we meant for each other? Is this relationship a mistake?
  12. Focus on other people. Go out of your way to help those around you especially if it means you won't be around to help your spouse. Put their needs ahead of his.
  13. Be selfish. Buy that gadget you've always wanted. You deserve it because of all that you do and how difficult it is being you. Besides if she wants something she can get it herself. You deserve to take care of your wants first.
Often it requires unconscious effort to fall out of love but if we simply don't pay attention to it we will be successful. 

Now on the other hand, falling more deeply into love takes conscious effort. The cool thing is that I don't need to make another list. Just do the opposite of the things above and you are well on your way!



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Thursday, October 2, 2014

4 Steps to a Brighter Financial Future

Budgeting.

After reading that word how do you feel?

Happy? Cheerful? Full of eager anticipation? Probably not.

Instead of talking about budgeting today I'm going to talk about monthly financial planning. It's way more exciting than budgeting.

Also, because money causes issues in so many marriages, I am going to break monthly financial planning down into four easy steps.

Step 1: Estimate


The first thing you need to do is guess. Guess what how much money you are going to make/receive this next month and guess how much you are going to spend.

Identify where you think the money is going to come from (your job, gifts, panhandling, whatever). Identify where you think your money is going to go (groceries, gas, rent/mortgage, utilities, entertainment, etc.). 

Now subtract what you expect to spend from what you expect to make and if that number is greater than zero designate for what purpose you are going to save that money (if it's less than zero figure out how you can spend less). Vacation, fixing the car, dental work, a new computer, whatever. The point is that when you are done when you add up your savings and your expenditures they should equal what you expect to make.

Step 2: Keep Track


Through the month keep track of what money you are making and what money you are spending. You can do this in a thousand different ways. Cami and I use Microsoft Excel, others use a notebook and pen, some us Quicken or Mint.com. It doesn't really matter, whatever works best for your family.

The important thing is to keep track. If you do it every couple of days it will be much easier than sitting down and doing it at the end of the month. Plus it gives you an idea of where you're at at that moment and you can then make adjustments to your spending if needed.

Step 3: Evaluate


At the end of the month add up all of the money you made. Compare it to what you estimated you would make. Were you close?

Now add up all of the money that you spent. Compare it to what you estimated that you would spend. How close are you?

Finally, add up what you were able to save. Compare that to what you estimated that you would save. And?

Don't worry. The first three months you probably won't even be close but by that fourth month your estimates will be super close to your actual expenses. Just be patient. And DO NOT stop because you weren't close the first time. No one is.

Step 4: Do It Again


That's it. Repeat steps 1 through 3. Do this every month until you die or have the money to pay someone else to do this for you.

The important thing in all of this, and the real reason that we should all do a monthly financial plan, is that we tell our money where to go. We need to stay in charge. Having a monthly financial plan gives us that control.

For more information about financial planning I encourage you to visit DaveRamsey.com and see if any of the resources he provides might help you.



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Monday, September 29, 2014

52 Things to be Grateful for Today

I think the title of this post is pretty self-explanatory.

I figure who can't use a bit more gratitude? After all, as Thomas Monson has said:

"This is a wonderful time to be living here on earth. Our opportunities are limitless. While there are some things wrong in the world today, there are many things right, such as teachers who teach, ministers who minister, marriages that make it, parents who sacrifice, and friends who help.

"We can lift ourselves, and others as well, when we refuse to remain in the realm of negative thought and cultivate within our hearts an attitude of gratitude. If ingratitude be numbered among the serious sins, then gratitude takes its place among the noblest of virtues."


Here you, 52 things to be grateful for today.
  1. The fact you are alive
  2. Your husband or wife
  3. Your family
  4. Friends
  5. Pets
  6. Education
  7. Zippers
  8. Velcro 
  9. Pockets (have you ever imagined life without pockets? Dreadful)
  10. Animals
  11. Food to eat
  12. Employment
  13. Internet access
  14. Being able to read Uplifting Love
  15. The beautiful colors of autumn
  16. Watches and clocks
  17. Microwaves
  18. Indoor plumbing
  19. Belts
  20. The combustion engine and your car
  21. Shelter, a home
  22. Religion, our faith (whatever it may be)
  23. Socks
  24. Umbrellas
  25. Books and libraries
  26. Ballpoint pens
  27. Sewing machines
  28. Bread maker
  29. Rice cooker
  30. Sunrises
  31. Ice cream (it truly is heavenly!)
  32. Rainbows
  33. Cell phones, smart phones especially
  34. Post It notes
  35. Recliners and rocking chairs
  36. To be able to see, smell, hear, touch, and taste
  37. Television and movies
  38. Health
  39. Hugs
  40. Electricity
  41. Mechanical pencils and dry erase markers
  42. Mechanics, dentists, doctors, accountants (notice lawyers are not on this list)
  43. S'mores
  44. German chocolate cake
  45. Mountains, rivers, lakes, and streams
  46. Sunsets
  47. Rain
  48. Board games
  49. The radio
  50. Shoe laces
  51. Kisses on the cheek
  52. Popcorn
I challenge you to come up with ten more things, that aren't on my list, and share them in the comments.

By the way, I'm grateful for you and that you're reading what I share. Thank you!



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