Tuesday, September 16, 2014

The Devastating Consequences of the Disintegration of the Family

"WE WARN that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets."

I'm not a master strategist. I haven't received any kind of training on warfare or how to defeat an enemy. I have never been in combat, been shot at, or shot at anyone.

I have spent a ridiculous amount of time playing strategy games on the computer and board games like Risk, Monopoly, and chess.

When I play these games, and I'm pretty good at them, my tactics develop and change as the game progresses. Sometimes I may attack directly and throw everything I have at my opponent. Other times I will hang back and watch to see what unfolds.

But regardless of my tactics my overall strategy is the same: to weaken my opponent's ability to fight back.

I want to undermine them. I want to cripple their productive capacity. I aim to defeat them slowly, over time, through patient consistency.

Let me share an example from Risk. In Risk when you control a continent you receive extra reinforcements each turn. I like to hold just one or two territories in the continent that my opponent is trying to conquer to prevent that. If I can do that and control a continent of my own then each turn I am becoming stronger while he (or she, but I've found that girls don't like playing Risk) weakens in comparison.

In Monopoly you grab one of the properties, like one of the four railroads, and just hold on to it. It keeps the other players from building houses and hotels and keeps your rent down when you land on their properties. Slowly but surely, if you can control an entire set or two, you wear them down.

Does this strategy always assure me the victory? No. But it always makes me a force to be reckoned with.

How is this related to families and marriage? In Risk, if you want to be strong and win the game you need to control continents. In Monopoly if you want to be rich and win the game you need to control sets of properties. In marriage and in family if you want to be happy and successful, if you want to win at life, you need to have the right strategy.

What should your strategy be? I propose something simple, actually several small and simple things. Why should we have a strategy? Because it is the small and simple things that we do that really strengthen and solidify our marriages and our families and when they are consistently applied great things come to pass.

There are nine foundational principles upon which we should build our marriages and homes. I wrote a post about them the week before last focusing on one of the nine principles. They are:
Have faith. Pray both privately and as a couple and as a family at least daily. Repent by asking forgiveness for wrongs and mistakes you have committed and strive not to repeat them. Forgive by allowing others the gift that you seek when you repent.
Show respect to those you love most. Love them unconditionally both in word and in deed. Feel compassion for what they struggle with as well as for the things at which they succeed.

Work hard. Then play hard through wholesome recreational activities. 

This is the strategy I recommend. This is the strategy that Cami and I use. The tactics will vary (Cami and I enjoy miniature golf, you may not so you can go bowling instead) from marriage to marriage and family to family. They will also vary from year to year. Our children love the park right now. When they're teenagers I don't think they'll feel the same enthusiasm.

The tactics vary and change. The strategy is the same.

Let's stave off the disintegration of the family, in fact, let's reverse the tide all together. A key to winning in marriage and in our families, to winning in life, is strategy. What's your strategy?



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Monday, September 15, 2014

Blogiversary Giveaway Celebration

Welcome to our One Year Blogiversary Giveaway Celebration!

Join us and enter to win one of the 6 prizes, totaling over $325

Wanting to support fellow bloggers and help them celebrate their one year blogging anniversary I am participating in this giveaway event. Show some love and participate too!

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Intelligent Domestications, My Pinterventures, 2 Crochet Hooks, and Meatloaf and Melodrama

The four of us are turning one this month and we've come together to celebrate our one year blogiversary! Of course, we wouldn't have made it this far if it weren't for all of your support. To help us celebrate this milestone, a few of our blogging buddies have joined with us to co-host this party and make this blogiversary celebration and giveaway possible.
Special thanks to our wonderful co-hosts:
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Co-hosts:

Becky and Glenna @My Paper Craze
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Laura @Michigan Saving and More

Trish @The Decoratoraholic


Time sure flies when you're having fun and we can't believe it's already been a year since we started blogging! Whoo hoo! To thank everyone that has helped support our blogs, we'd like to help kick off your fall season with the opportunity to win some fabulous prizes. You'll have 6 chances to win! One grand prize winner will receive $150 in cold hard cash - cha-ching! But wait, there's still 5 more chances to win a prize. Thanks to our fabulous sponsors, one lucky winner will win a sponsor gift package. Plus, each blogiversary blog will be giving one gift prize to a lucky winner too. That's six ways to win a prize and start your fall season off with a bang!

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One lucky winner will win $150 CASHhappycash400

Special thanks to our sponsors for providing these wonderful gifts.

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One lucky winner will win these great prizes - Chloe + Isabel earrings (Value $22) from Andrea's Chloe +Isabel Shop, Monogrammed Burlap Chevron Garden Flag (Value $29.99) from Brand it Boutique, $25 Gift Card from Julie's La Bella Baskets, and a Halloween Door Hanger (Value $30) from Becky at My Paper Craze (contact her through her blog for orders).

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Blogiversary Celebration Giveaway Details:

  • Giveaway begins September 15th 12:00 AM EST and ends September 30th 11:59 PM EST
  • Cash prize of $150 is open worldwide and payment will be made via Paypal. All other prizes are open to residents in the United States only
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  • One entry per household, per address
  • Winners of all prizes will have 24 hours to respond to winner notification email, or prize will be forfeited and another winner will be chosen
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Saturday, September 13, 2014

Canyon Bakehouse Giveaway

Canyon Bakehouse Giveaway Sponsored by Canyon Bakehouse

Hosted by Deals of Sweetness

Co-Hosted by Pea of Sweetness

Canyon Bakehouse Giveaway

Canyon Bakehouse has a mission that is simple. They want people to LOVE BREAD AGAIN. Their family is gluten-free and they are passionate about making real food with wholesome, clean ingredients. They bake bread the old fashioned way and use only 100% whole grains. From their family bakehouse in the Colorado Rocky Mountains to your kitchen, enjoy eating without compromise.

Emilee at Deals of Sweetness has been trying to eat more gluten-free foods but finds gluten-free breads that are enjoyable are harder to find. See what she thought of the Canyon Bakehouse gluten-free breads and muffins!

Would you like to try some gluten-free baked goods? One winner will receive a variety of 4 gluten-free baked goods - 7-Grain, Cinnamon Raisin, and Mountain White Gluten-Free Breads and Cranberry Crunch Muffins. This giveaway begins on 9/13 and ends on 9/27 at 10:00pm (times are Central) and is open to US residents ages 18+. Winner is subject to eligibility verification and will have 48 hours to confirm before a new winner will be drawn. For any questions/concerns please email dealsofsweetness@gmail.com (consider adding this email to your "Safe List" as winning email notification will be sent from this email.) Please refer to the full terms and conditions in the Giveaway Tools.



Disclosure: Emilee at Deals of Sweetness received complimentary product(s) to facilitate her honest review. I received no compensation for this post. Participating bloggers are not responsible for prize fulfillment.     

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Different Responsibilities, Equal Partners

"By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed."

I have the privilege at work of leading a team of several amazing individuals. They are some of the best people that I know and great employees.

Our team is responsible for many things. Many of these responsibilities there is equal responsibility for, such as answering the phones and helping customers who come into the office. Additionally, each team member has their own responsibilities. One is responsible for depositing funds we receive into the university's bank account; another primarily handles our outgoing communications to students; another processes certain types of paperwork that we receive.


No one position is more important than another. Without any one of us the team's effectiveness and success would be impacted negatively in a dramatic way.

All members of my team are equal. No one person out ranks another (myself excluded for obvious reasons). We share with each other what we know, offer of our time and talents to advance our common goals, and make sacrifices to help one another fulfill our shared and separate responsibilities.

Marriage should be like this. It is intended to be a partnership between husband and wife. Both are equal and share common responsibilities, however, each has a different primary role and responsibility. Husband and wife are obligated and expected to assist one another in the fulfillment of both their shared and their specific responsibilities, just like my team.

Traditionally men have been the providers and protectors of their families. While I believe that women can be just as capable providers as men can be they have traditionally fulfilled the role of nurturing children. I know unquestionably that my wife is about a million times better at loving and caring for our children than I am. If I were left to raise the children alone I don't know if any of them would end up being functioning adults, without a significant investment in therapy that is.

I am profoundly and eternally grateful that Cami chooses to bless our family with her nurturing abilities. I am grateful that we have been blessed that I have a job that provides for most of our family's temporal needs.

One important thing to note is that the specific roles and responsibilities that husband and wife fulfill vary from marriage to marriage. For example, in the Cooper home Cami takes out the trash. I could but she just does. In the mornings I generally get the children ready before school.

Growing up my dad took out the trash (though Mom would probably argue with this!) and Mom got us ready for school (when we were younger, as we got older we would fend for ourselves).

Every marriage is different and so the division of responsibilities will also be different...and that is okay.

While this is generally the case I do take out the trash on occasion and Cami, when she wakes up early enough, helps get the kids get ready before school. We help each other with our responsibilities.

We are equal partners (though if you ask the boys who the boss is, they will all say "Mom is!").

Here's another example of how Cami and I share the responsibilities of family life. I work out of the home. However, because we felt it was the right thing for our family we have stayed at my current place of employment. The intangible benefits of working there are out of this world but the pay leaves something to be desired.

Because of this Cami has helped me provide financially for the family since the day we were married. She babysits other people's children during the day. She also manages our basement (we rent it out). If it weren't for her I would not be writing this post because I would be working an additional job or two to cover our family's expenses. So if you like what you read you have her to thank.

Marriage is a partnership between husband and wife. It is an equal partnership. While each spouse has unique and differing responsibilities we work together to be successful.

Perhaps we should try starting each day with a chant. Let's put our hands together with our spouse's and shout "GOOOO TEAM!"



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You think you're happy now, and I'm sure you are, but I challenge you to read Uplifting Love and apply what you learn today to make your marriage awesome! Don't wait another minute, start taking your marriage from good to great today!

Purchase your copy of Uplifting Love: Secrets to Making a Good Marriage Great right now and have it delivered to your inbox immediately! In just a matter of minutes you'll be on your way to having the marriage that your friends and family envy. Don't delay, get your copy today!
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Tuesday, September 9, 2014

$300 Walmart Gift Card Giveaway

Welcome to the $300 Walmart Gift Card Giveaway!
Hosted by All About Parents
Co-Hosted by David's DIY & Michigan Savings and More!

Who's ready for a giveaway?
I know I am!
This is the $300 Walmart Gift Card Giveaway!
Who doesn't love Walmart? I know I do! 
One super lucky winner will win a $300 gift card to walmart obviously right?
This giveaway will run from 9/9 to 9/23. 
There are some amazing bloggers participating in this giveaway so the more love you show the better chance of winning you will have. 

There are many different ways to enter so the choice is yours!
I want everyone to have fun and Good Luck!


The participating bloggers nor Walmart, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest Etc. are associated with awarding the prize for this giveaway. The prize is coming straight from the sponsor. If you have any questions please feel free to contact me anytime, day or night. Thanks for participating!